Sweetheart Friend

I find that there is a major difference for two teens becoming boyfriend and girlfriend between my country and western countries.

Last time, a friend of mine told me that he fell in love with a girl and he could also tell that the girl had a crush on him. So he asked her to be his girlfriend. But unexpectedly, the girl said no. He was very depressed and confused by the situation. He could sense the affection from the girl but then why did the girl refuse him? He asked me about this. I told him that he was too serious and the girl just needed time to make this ‘big’ decision. He told me that he really couldn't understand it.

I think most boys would come across the same situation if they behaved so seriously. Because we have different cultures, girls in China are not likely to promise to be a boy's girlfriend the first time they meet no matter how much they like the boy. The reasons vary, from my perspective, the most important reason is that girls always think of marriage when they begin a relationship with a boy. So they are actually choosing a husband from their heart. Once becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, they would strive to maintain the relationship and prepare themselves for marriage.

So I think the major difference is that Chinese girls choose a lifelong partner before boys become their boyfriends, while western girls prefer to develop a relationship first and then choose the right person through the interaction. If you are a foreign boy and fall in love with a Chinese girl, don't be in a rush, just be patient. Give them time to make decision:)

Good Job!

One comment: 'straight' for slang means 'heterosexual'

You meant serious, you can also say old-fashioned or traditional. We do have the phrase "straight-laced", which would mean the same thing as well.