how to get over all this I have to concede I never get over my ex, although I don't actually want to. It's been nearly 5 years, but it feels like he is still so close to me. I remember clearly his smile,his words,and his favourite cigarettes.And I have told myself not to think about the past for hundreds of times,however, it just doesn't work. What a painful process to try to get over someone that you have really loved with your soul.