The one you should be in Chinese parents mind a. You should join the communist party of China, if you want to have more promotion prospects in the future. So no matter if you really believe in this party, or you hold some other political points of view,or you may have zero attention to politics, just write a party membership application and go to attend some middle and high party lectures, it might take two or three years before you become one official member. Then your parents can claim proudly: my son/ daughter is a member of CPC. The actual meaning is: they are more excellent than your babys. You are in first class now^^. b. You should get married better before around 26. The marriage in China sometimes is like a competition. If the contemporaries around you are all married, your parents will feel very embarrassed when other ask something. They start to push you to date and " finish" your most important steps of your life. Or you will be a loser." What? Still no steady relationship, your son? Already 27!!! You need to push him!" They never ask if you love somebody or not. Some extreme even tell the children: just find one to marry, and delivery one baby , then give me I will take care of it.