Some thoughts about the lecture"Why 30 is not the new 20?"

My name is Amy. I’m 26 years old. I come from China. Last year I graduated from a university as a postgraduate (I'd say "graduated from my postgraduate course at university", but I think that's a British way of saying it) . My major is sociology.
Yesterday I saw a TED lecture called” why 30 is not the new 20?”At the end of the lecture, the lecturer gave us some advice.1)claim your adulthood; 2)get some identity capital; 3)use your weak ties; 4)pick your family. I have some thoughts.
To be honest, maybe it’s possibly the worst period in my lifetime nowat the moment. I only just graduated for only onea year ago. I’m not sure my current occupation is the most appropriate for me.(btw, I’m a counsellor for corporate social responsibility)I haven’t got a clear plan for next five years or ten years because CSR is a new field in China and people may not pay attention to it, which means I cannot make too much money onin it. It seems that my biggest problem is that I think more and work lessthan I work. I wanted to be independent. But I haven’t got too much enough money and although my parents sometimes will still give me some money, but they will also want me to do many things as they like.
However, I would like to listen to my friends’ advice. Also, but my friends’ circle is a little bit narrow. We have too many things in common, and each also has we all have the same problem, but maybe I’m the most anxious. The others don’t like to discuss some planning problems with me. They tell me that “we’ll going and wing it.” I hope I can leave China to see athe big world one day because sometimes I really bored with my daily life.
Last but not the least, when I talk about “pick up my family”, I feel so upset. I broke up with my boyfriend this February. I cannot even go out from the pain. He betrayed me and made another girl pregnant. That really hurt me because it happened when I was his girlfriend. But now I've found that I can hardly accept a new one. I still don’t want to be alone until 30. It’s a little struggle.
I’m anxious cause I have only 4 years left to 30 years old. Any little change could have a big influence to my life. When you were 26, do you have such problems like me?

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time! I'm the same age - I understand how it feels to want everything sorted out! I think we just have to think about what we really want to do and aim for that.

Your English is very good - I've only really changed things to sound a little more natural :)