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Think fast I'm terrible at reaction, (I wanted to say "言葉の切り返し" and I googled it, but I couldn't find) and I don't like that part of myself. For example, if my boss tell some joke to me, I can't react immediately, and after about three second, I just reply something like "Well, yes". The other day, I read this conference on Japanese Yahoo! answers: "My manager has a thin hair. Every time we go company drinking, he orders whiskey joking "Whiskey please, with this thickness." as he pointing his head. I am confused how to react. Should I laugh out loud? Or pretend that I didn't hear it? Or should I butt in the joke? So far, I've pretended that I didn't hear it." I can understand her feelings. My boss trying to tell some jokes, but I can't react immediately. Thinking too much whether my reaction seems rude to him. In the end, I also pretend that I didn't hear it. However, this is something wrong begin as a business person. Also, I'm sometimes told sexually harassed things which annoys me a lot. However, if I say "Please do not tell me such dirty things." to my boss, the atmosphere would become so cold. Beforehand (I tried to say "それ以前に、"), I can't say such things to my boss. And I feel myself miserable when I see a woman who is able to think fast and react perfectly with a smile, while I make surly face and think slowly. I'm sure these kinds of women also feel "He is yuck!" to herself. However, these women don't make their face and get out of the situation smoothly. By the way, the best answer to the question was "If you don't laugh out loud, you'll make your manager put in a bad position at that place. Just tell him "No way! Are you going to order some water?", and back him up!" If I were her boss, I would took her, who is able to deal with things flexibly. React to my boss's flat joke is one of a thing which I'm not good at most. (I can't say this correctly. >_< ) Still, I have to react in a good way or have to laugh. I wonder if I get used to circulating while I'm using some circulating application on mobile phone, I'll be able to think fast and become able to deal with my boss's jokes. Finally, I'm about to buy some weird books like "The conversation skills which clear the atmosphere".

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Think fast

I'm terrible at reaction My reaction time is terrible, (I wanted to say "言葉の切り返し" and I googled it, but I couldn't find) and I don't like that part of myself about myself. For example, if my boss tells some joke to me me a joke, I can't don't react immediately. and After about three second, I just reply something like "Well, yes".

The other day, I read this conference conversation on Japanese Yahoo! answers:

"My manager has a thin hair. Every time we go company drinking with the company, he orders whiskey, by jokingly saying joking "Whiskey please, with this thickness." as he pointing his head. I am confused how to react. Should I laugh out loud? Or pretend that I didn't hear it? Or should I butt in the joke? So far, I've pretended that I didn't hear it."

I can understand her feelings. My boss triesying to tell some jokes, but I can't don't react immediately, thinking too much whether my reaction seems rude to him. In the end, I also pretend that I didn't hear it. However, this is something I find wrong begin as being a business person.

Also, I'm sometimes told sexually harassed things which annoys me a lot("quite a bit" works too). However, if I say "Please do not tell me such dirty things." to my boss, the atmosphere would become so cold (awkward word choice). Beforehand I've realized (I tried to say "それ以前に、") I cannot say such things to my boss, and I feel myself miserable when I see a woman who is able to think fast and react perfectly with a smile, while I make a surly face and think slowly. I'm sure these kinds of women also feel "He is yuck!" that he is disgusting to herself. However, these women don't make their a face and they get out of the situation smoothly.

By the way, the best answer to the question was "If you don't laugh out loud, you'll make your put your manager put in a bad position at that place. Just tell him "No way! Are you going to order some water?", and back him up!"
If I were her boss I would took like her, who for she is able to deal with things flexibly.

Reacting to my boss's flat jokes is one of a the things which I'm not very good at most. (I can't say this correctly. >_< ) Still, I have to react in a good way or have to laugh. I wonder if I can get used to circulating (I don't know what word you are trying to use here, but circulating doesn't work) while I'm using some circulating application on my mobile phone. I'll be able to think fast and become able to deal with my boss's jokes. Finally, I'm about to buy some weird books like "The conversation skills which clear the atmosphere".

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Thank you for your comment. I've heard that in America, people are more strict with sexual harassment. Anyway, it's tough to being a businessperson.
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I'm sorry that you've faced such behavior from your boss. Unfortunately, sexual harassment is a major problem in the U.S. as well (but some workplaces are better than others). That's an extremely difficult situation to deal with. There's nothing wrong with you if you don't smile when your boss sexually harasses you. You're a person trying to work, not there for his enjoyment. Even though you might feel bad about not reacting "correctly", I don't think you did anything wrong. His sense of humor seems very dull and flat! Solidarity and positive wishes to you from the U.S.

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