Do you think if you are able to be alone then you won't fell lonely? I watched a TED lecture recently. It was a psychologist's speech which talking about her research on the relationship of human being and virtual community. 　　 　　I was attracted by its name which is "keep in touch but still lonely." she was worried about the situation that people were used to connect on virtual community by various devices instead of real conversation. They felt uncomfortable while having a real conversation or real connect because one couldn't control what they were going to say or showed themselves the best side. But in the virtual world, they could go in and out all the places they wanted. People would fell less anxious or felt alive because they could consider the digital assistant "like best friend, someone who will listen when others won't." 　　 　　When I listened the words, I felt very sorrow for ourselves. Why we were lonely but afraid of real talk? Why we surfed online but ignored our family? Why we couldn't pay attention on something long time but easy felt boring? The psychologist wanted to give us the answer that she believed "technology appeals to us most where we're most vulnerable." One of the fantasies the virtual world gave us was "we will never have to be alone." For getting rid of the lonely feeling, people reached for the devise in their pocket. She suggested people that the best way to resist the lonely feeling is to be able to be alone. It sounded make good sense. 　　 　　But not for me. I think I'm a person who is able to be alone. I'm not a tough woman but try to do my best to finish everything I need to do. I can spend whole day with friends chatting, playing. I also can stay at home alone whole week doing things what I like. I don't feel "anxious, panic or fidget" as she described. Actually I feel comfortable, freedom and relax. But, I do feel lonely. The lonely feeling comes from the fear and disappointment of losing the connection with other people and the world. So, the devise is really the best thing comforts me. It gives me chance to know and connect with the world. I agree with her that the technology appears me most where is the most of my vulnerable. I just doubt I really won't feel lonely any more if I'm able to be alone. Maybe I didn't touch the truly powerful of the ability of being able to alone.