Is or Was (2) I'm telling my story to a friend. I : Back to 1997, I was between jobs and lived 200 miles away from my wife's home, My wife was (or is )(*Note: she is still a teacher now.) a teacher which is ( or was ) a pretty good and stable job.(* Note: Teacher is still a good job now. ). Friend: Wow, she loved (or love) ( * Note: She still loves me now ) you than herself.