Chinese Culture in Indonesia

Often times, a new chapter in life begins with a procession of various kinds, ranging from the birth, maturation, proposal, marriage, and even to death; all involve were loaded with the procession (note: you can also say ceremony or tradition). Human life is not has never been separated from the procession and ceremony.
In a few days, my little sister will be engaged engangement with to her boyfriends. We are a family of Chinese chinnese descent famely living in Indonesia. We always say engangement with "Ting Jing." (Note: any time someone's name, last name, country or language is written, you must capitalize it- example, Mei, Budi, David, Chinese language, Balinese people/Japanese food/Thai cities, Singaporean flavor, etc. See this article at wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proper_noun)

Ting Jing is the beginning of a new life for a new family. When The famely family of the man (or groom) that determines both the wedding date, and brings a wide range of goods and/or food that will be given to the family of his girlfriend / fiance/ bride. (Note: pick whatever your word you like.)

A wide range of goods or food are brought by a male relative, and the total cost of the amount of these items will usually will be refunded by half. Because according to tradition, if the family of the woman/ bride takes all of it, then the family of the bride has no right to interfere in with their child at all; in other words, a the girl's /woman's/ bride's family completely gives their daughter into famely to the family of that  the man / groom. (Note: the word man or woman is fine, but since I imagine you are talking about marriage ceremony, you can say bride for the female, and groom to describe the male.)