oh, family!

Mum, Don't make me regret that I answering your phonecalls every time!!! I don't argue with you but i don't agree with you!  I am living my own life, not the life you planned or expected. I really don't care whether you approved or not,  I really don't.

Oh, the Bane of Family!

Mum, please don't make me regret answering your phone call every time!!! I didn't argue with you but I don't agree with you either!! I am living my own life, not the life you planned for, or expect of, me. I really don't care whether you approve or not, I don't.

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[Ok, maybe I do, just a little, because that's why I'm so upset with you ... Why can't you be happy for me? It's not that I don't love you, because if I didn't, why else would I answer your calls (EVERY SINGLE TIME)? So I really do, and I know you do love me very much too :-( Why else do you take such great pains and spend so much time making my life so miserable!??

You claim you're only looking out for me, but there is a place and time for that! That time has ended. For god's sake, I'm an adult now, and I'd wish you'd realize that and treat me as one. I can certainly fend for myself. After all, I don't tell you how to lead your life, so why are you telling me how to lead mine? Didn't you send me to school all those years ago so that I can learn to think for myself ...?

It's not that I'm so stubborn that I can't take feedback, and of course I do listen to what you say ... but are you listening to what I say? I mean, really listen? Mom, I do wish we can have a constructive conversation for once. I wish, for once, you would be supportive of my aspirations and desires!

I know I've let you down in terms of what you wish for me to become, but you need to get over that, and appreciate me for who I am! When you met Dad, didn't you wish he was absent of some of his bad habits? Didn't you wish you could change those parts of him that you disapproved of? But did it work?? After all this time and trying, you should know that it's impossible to change someone by wishing change upon them. The only time change is possible is if the motivation for it comes from within.

Please understand that and I hope the next time we speak, we take turns listening to what we each have to say, and I would feel incredibly touched if, instead of impeding my every move, you'd spend your considerable energies on helping me achieve my own goals in life. I do want you on my team, Mom!]