Hey, Zhu Several days ago, a suggeation from a book made an great impresion on me. It says that whenever u felt confused, remember to write your issues on notebooks and sort out the major problems. Besides, think and write down the attached problems that might follow. In this period of our life, a lot of things that weren't taken as problems or troubles have come to us now. We have to admit the fact that we are grown-ups and are expected to bear a lot of responsibilities in many situations, be it the family, the working place and so on. We started to be concerned about the future of a relationship, the future of one's family, the future of one's development. We begin to ask ourselves a lot of questions: will he/she be the one that i want to be with in the rest of my life? What will the world be like if i get married and live in his home with his parents? Shall i take the public servant examination or look for a job? Shall i study further to be a post graduate of just start my own business? No one can anwer the answers for us. We are the only people who can give answers to ourselves. But what can others do to help, even a little? The powerful words from an elder, experienced "teacher". The quiet support from a friend to listen to our whinings. The care and helpful suggestions from families and friends......They are so precious that we value these people a lot, even in this changeable world. We chosed to trust and get warmth from each other. I learned how to sing "Hey, jude" yesterday and discovered the meaning and story behind the words. Later that night, a friend called and told me how scared she was when her parents both asked her to get married as soon as possible. I know it is commom in China and she eventually has to get married. I felt that nothing i said could comfort her. Therefore, I thought, why not sing that song to her! It would be a song to encourage and show compassionate. I changed the word "jude" to "zhu", which is her name. I went to bed as soon as i sent my voice records through wechat. She told me this morning that how much i made her feel moved and cry seriously. I was confused. Don't people get married to seek happiness. Why would she try so hard to agree to marriage? I wish she could be much more rebellious and find out what she actually wants. But anyway, being a friend means that we should be suportive, not to add her burden in mind.O(∩_∩)O~