My break up!

Recently I just got a break up. I was totally sad and sick for a whole week because of that. Basically, I met him online because he is studying Chinese and we were both surprised when we knew we live at the same city, therefore, we decided to meet in the real life. We fell in love gradually and I treated him as my real family member but then I found he just didn`t care about me at all. I am studying in his country and he just knew nothing about how hard the overseas life is for me. My friend told me the reason I was sad was because my heart was totally hurt by him. I think my friend is right and he doesn`t deserve my love at all. Recently, I find love is such a weird thing in our life. Two people were super close when they were together, however, once they broke up, they could be the farthest people in this world. We would say hi and smile at strangers but we just don`t want to see our ex boyfriends or girlfriends at all. Life is such a weird trip.

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Hello Crystal Song.   What a great Notebook Entry.

  I  am familiar  with  this dilemma.  One of my students has recentally been devastated by a long-distance Romance, when the American fellow  announced an end to the expected plans of meeting,  marriage  etc, with a  young lady in Asia.

 Moreover, I sympathize with the fact that you discovered that the other person  had no conception of

any real obligation to you.  This is what people need to know about Western People. Their conceptions of intimacy  are not always associated with a sense of life-long commitment,  marriage; but then,  Western people do not always intend to hurt people. They just do not understand why in a world where moral obligations are not specifically clear, that other people should hold to  conservative values  which deny closeness.

      None of this should be seen as a denial that the human heart can be deeply wounded, or that some people simply "use" others as a mere convenience.  Feelings  of a  deep wounding are painful, and entirely real, and it does require  powerful adjustments in the human psyche.

 My student who was so hurt,  would turn on the webcam, and sit there,  crying, while I tried to adjust between the role of  the Native English Speaker, conducting a practice,  and a friend who had deep anxiety about the obvious pain.  I finally suggested that the student return  after  some stability  had been achieved, because I can do nothing for a friend who feels only pain  and cannot be consoled.

After about a month,  my student is at least,  feeling a little more normative, and I look forward to chatting with her  again,  because she is one of my dear friends.

    Perhaps what is need is more information about human nature and how it works; because it is not a surprise really, that study forums  and social contexts for learning  things like a language,  also serves as a means for developing personal relationships.     Still,  when one begins to think that the other person is   a potential candiate for marriage, some caution  would be adisable.

  And indeed you are correct.  Life can be very complex, and learning the nuances of that complexity, is one of the necessities of our experience. Yet we may well note, that for some people, there is virtually no social dialogue  at all as to what the nuances of love,  intimacy, and  personal obligations   should be.    The "writing" may be On--The---Wall; but that hardly serves for a proof that all of humanity has read the writing.---Warm Regards, Bruce R. Bain

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My break up!

Recently I just got a break up. I was totally sad and sick for a whole week because of that. Basically, I met him online because he is studying Chinese and we were both surprised when we knew we live at the same city, therefore, we decided to meet in the real life. We fell in love gradually and I treated him as my real family member but then I found he just didn`t care about me at all. I am studying in his country and he just knew nothing about how hard the overseas life is for me. My friend told me the reason I was sad was because my heart was totally hurt by him. I think my friend is right and he doesn`t deserve my love at all. Recently, I find love is such a weird thing in our life. Two people were super close when they were together, however, once they broke up, they could be the farthest people in this world. We would say hi and smile at strangers but we just don`t want to see our ex boyfriends or girlfriends at all. Life is such a weird trip.

Your English is excellent! We have a saying, "You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince."

My break up!

Recently I just got went through a break up. I was totally very sad and sick for a whole week because of that it. Basically, I met him online because he is studying Chinese and we were both surprised when we knew realized that we live at the same city. therefore, we decided to meet in the real life. We fell in love gradually gradually fell in love and I treated him as my real like family. member but then Then I found out that he just didn`t care about me at all. I am studying in his country and he just knew nothing about how hard the overseas life is for me. My friend told me the reason I was sad was because my heart was totally hurt by him. I think my friend is right and he doesn`t deserve my love at all. Recently, I have come to find that love is such a weird one of the weirdest things in our life. Two people that were super close when they were together, however, once they broke up, could end up as the farthest people in the world when they break up. they could be the farthest people in this world. We would say hi and smile at strangers but we just don`t want to see avoid our ex boyfriends or and girlfriends at all. Life is such a so weird trip.

Comment: Nice Job! I'm sorry you had to go through that.