Know what your goal is. What is your objective? To find a good man and marry? Then you must be where he is...school, work. To have a great job? Then you must study hard, be well rounded (not just all study, but do something for the community), and most importantly, know who you are. Know that you were not created to fail. Why would anyone create someone that would fail. Personally, "I believe that if God if for us, who can be against us." Whether or not your believe in God matters in my own life, may be not yours. What ever you believe, believe in yourself. Forget the past and know that each and everyone of us, has the ability to start over. God gave us this ability, more special than any other living creature on Earth. We have the ability to start over.