"I've been torn apart so many times, I've been hurt so many times before, so be, careful and, be kind. Somebody already broke my heart" (Sade). I think it's about knowing yourself and being honest with yourself and other people. Men tend to want sex, women do too but men tend to run away from commitment a bit more than women (in general). I think the best thing to do in the beginning of a relationship is to express yourselves honestly, and when the relationship changes in time you can still be friends even if you're not lovers any more. It took me many years to learn what I know now, and it's still not easy for me. Matters of the heart are very powerful, we're talking about nature's strongest chemicals. I do say to you though, that the answer doesn't lie with alcohol, that's self abuse and why do you deserve to be punished? You don't. Someone enjoyed being with you, in 30 years time they'll remember that they enjoyed your time and your body, it wont ever go away. You also have the same positive memories that no one can take away from you, enjoy them when you want to. Look forward to still being the wonderful person you are, and having more beautiful experiences with other men in the future. Life will be up and down until the end, no one has a great life, everyone has some good some bad, and everyone hurts, so..... "lick your wounds" work out in your mind what you will and will not accept from men, then carry on. It doesn't count for anything but I think you're pretty :) good luck, and avoid the alcohol, it's not your friend babe.