Notes about meaning of life, happiness and disappointment (Part II) Speaking about pleasure it should be noted that it's relative. I mean the following: if you do something the same every day you can notice each time it gives pleasure to you less and less. Conversely if you want something, but aren't getting it long time for some reason you will feel a lot of enjoyment when you finally get it, but at the same time until you get it you will feel unsatisfied. It follows you should know when enough is enough and maintain balance in how often you get pleasure. However if you aren't getting what you really want despite all your efforts you will feel bad and unhappy. Among other things it can influence your self-esteem and cause frustration resulting in you might just give up. So it's very important you to tackle the problems which you can handle to avoid written above. I've heard about concept called "learned helplessness" the main idea which is if you constantly fail and after a while you're getting a chance to have succeed in that thing you won't even try to do it because you will no longer believe in yourself. For this reason I consider you should properly evaluate your own abilities and first of all focus on your achievements, but not losses. It will help you to feel more self-confident, ambitious and decisive. To sum up, I would like to say that happiness is born inside your head and it depends on your thoughts, how you react to surrounding you events and on which things you are focusing. There is no general answer how to achieve it because it's very individual, so this is the way which everyone of us must discover by himself.