05/05/19 Today's Diary [2] Even if someone is your family, that doesn’t necessarily mean you can have high expectations of her or she has to be better than anyone else [2] And none of them want to hear that they look like my dad when the fact is all of us have been affected by my dad because we’d lived together for a while. I know my dad is not a good example of a dad but all of us have to admit that we must’ve been affected by our dad in many respects and there’s nothing wrong with that. All we have to is accept it and just move on. But my brother can’t just let it go as easily as I did and it got him into a depression. Given his personality where he always plans things out and he chews on something over and over again, it’s hard for him to let what happened to him go of. So I needed to step in to mediate but I told both of them to have a seat and let everything out that’s on there mind because what I said to them could be delivered in a wrong way rather than what it really is. Anyways although I mumble-jumbled a lot though, what I’m trying to say is even if he’s your family, don’t expect him to just know everything that is on your mind. You have to talk things out with the person and don’t expect him or her to be better or perfect just because he’s your family. I think all the trivial argument comes from our higher expectation where we think “oh she is my mom so she’s supposed to understand everything and if something goes wrong, she has to be changed “. Actually all of us are a human being. We have to think first that your mom is a person before your mom and family. You have to respect your mom and don’t take her for granted. But most of us and even people who already acknowledge this easily overlook the true fact that we have to express gratitude to our family but for some reason, we don't be thankful very often when actually it can be the easiest thing to do in the world. Looking at all the arguments that me or my brother had with mom, they also came from lack of expression of gratitude. Ironically enough, there are many people who always express gratitude to others when actually saying thank you to their families is one of the hardest things to them.