Do you know what do you look for in a partner? Do you know what do you look for in a partner? The most of people used to choose a partner based on the wrong characteristics, like status, wealthy, attractiveness, excitement, and so on. This behavior can be described as a long-term failure because the right values of a real relationship are not these ones, but kindness, loyalty, understanding, dialogue, tolerance etc. Reports have shown that couples that share similar values, attitudes forward life, tastes, interests, expectations, and perspectives when nurturing children are much more likely to don’t divorce. Contentiousness, which is not seen as an important attribute when meeting someone, can prove to be an important ingredient for a harmonic relationship in long-term. Probably, emotional stability plays one of the most important roles to keep a couple together and happy. Researchers found two main attitudes toward relationships. The first one is from people who believe in a perfect partner and a destiny. This group use to try to hide imperfections and problems thinking they could be signs that the relationship is not the ideal one. The second group believe in changing the imperfections and problems in positive outcomes by giving attention, tolerance and understanding. They think relationships are not perfect, and each partner can work to improve the convivence. Probably all of us have an idea of which kind of person will best fit with us. But unfortunately, when meeting a person, our rational part loses to our emotional one, and we end up choosing what we feel familiar. It can include partners that resemble our last ones, or our parent's behavior when we were a child, causing a repetition of negative patterns that seems we cannot be freed from. The first thing to do in this case is freed yourself from false needs and expectations, because you are attracted by aspects of other people that you wish to have in yourself, hoping that that person will fulfill that lacking. Instead of looking anxiously for a perfect partner, engage with life and accept the gifts along the way. So, it will be more probably you will find someone more likely to you because you are being yourself, and not pretending to be who you don’t are. Finally, don’t hurry; allow the relationship unfold naturally, enjoying all the way, because relationships are not a destiny but a journey.