to lend or not to lend ? Or how find again something hello Mum, I take that.... can you lend me this... Well, steadily, i never find again what I lent .... Should I say : No you can't ? Consequences : i'm petty, selfish and a miser person. The better assumption is to be confident when someone ask you to lend him an object However i'm really happy to help but reality is less exciting. And it's necessary if you need something you don't own or don't use steadily. But how find it again when nothing return ? First of all, you could try again to be confident, then if a certain time is spent, you might ask some news about your propertry. Finally you're angry and you claim or you think that you misplaced it...