Why no one in Vietnam will love me :| Whenever I talk to my parents, they are very anxious that I should find a boyfriend soon. They are afraid nobody in Vietnam will marry me. The reasons are simple:

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Why no one in Vietnam will love me :| Whenever I talk to my parents, they are very anxious that I should find a boyfriend soon. They are afraid nobody in Vietnam will marry me. The reasons are simple: 1. Because in Vietnam I'm ugly To fall in love with somebody, you must first find that person not sexually repulsive. However, the definition of beauty is dramatically different from a culture to another. In Vietnam, we have fixed guidelines to beauty. You have to look like this, like that to be considered beautiful. For example, a girl has to have pale skin, long black hair, pigeon's eyes etc. An English friend of mine who has been to Vietnam once complained that all girls in Vietnam have exactly one hairstyle. People sometimes make fun of my fluffy hair and my round face. My mom was so disappointed to find down I was so tanned that my skin looked as dark as that of a buffalo's. 2. Because in Vietnam, I'm domestically incapable In Vietnam, girls are supposed to do all the housework. Whenever we have a family celebration, my female cousins and I have to wash all the dishes and cook all the food while all the boys just hang around and playing cards or terrorising our neighbours. If I ask my mom why my brother doesn't have to do any work, she will scold me: "You are a girl, don't ask such a silly question. People will laugh at you if you do". 3. Because in Vietnam, I'm corrupt In Vietnam, girls are supposed to keep a low profile. We have to be feminine with a shy smile and a sweet voice. I don't have any of these. A Vietnamese guy a few years older than me called me " ill-bred" because I dared to argue with him. Whenever I call home, my mom always asks " Are you still a good girl?" In Vietnam, if a girl drinks alcohol, she's a brat. If she goes clubbing, she's a slut. So yeah I'm doomed!

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Why no one in Vietnam will love me :|

Whenever I talk to my parents, they are very anxious that I should find a boyfriend soon. They are afraid nobody in Vietnam will marry me. The reasons are simple:
1. Because in Vietnam I'm ugly
To fall in love with somebody, you must first find that person not sexually repulsive. However, the definition of beauty is dramatically different from one a culture to another. In Vietnam, we have fixed guidelines for to beauty. You have to look like this or like that to be considered beautiful. For example, a girl has to have pale skin, long black hair, pigeon's eyes etc. An English friend of mine who has been to Vietnam once complained that all girls in Vietnam have exactly one hairstyle. People sometimes make fun of my fluffy hair and my round face. My mom was so disappointed to find down I was so tanned that my skin looked as dark as that of a buffalo's.
2. Because in Vietnam, I'm domestically incapable
In Vietnam, girls are supposed to do all the housework. Whenever we have a family celebration, my female cousins and I have to wash all the dishes and cook all the food while all the boys just hang around and playing cards or terrorising our neighbors. If I ask my mom why my brother doesn't have to do any work, she will scold me: "You are a girl, don't ask such a silly question. People will laugh at you if you do".
3. Because in Vietnam, I'm corrupt
In Vietnam, girls are supposed to keep a low profile. We have to be feminine with a shy smile and a sweet voice. I don't have any of these. A Vietnamese guy a few years older than me called me " ill-bred" because I dared to argue with him. Whenever I call home, my mom always asks " Are you still a good girl?"
In Vietnam, if a girl drinks alcohol, she's a brat. If she goes clubbing, she's a slut.
So yeah I'm doomed!

Good post. Only a few very minor things.

Maybe you need to date Americans. I think you look cute.

Why no one in Vietnam will love me :|

Whenever I talk to my parent, they are very anxious because they want me to find a boyfriend soon. They are afraid nobody in Vietnam will marry me. The reasons are simple:
1. Because in Vietnam I'm ugly
To fall in love with somebody, you must first find that person not sexually repulsive. However, the definition of beauty is dramatically different from one culture to another. In Vietnam, we have fixed guidelines for beauty. You have to look like this, like that to be considered beautiful. For example, a girl has to have pale skin, long black hair, pigeon's eyes, etc. An English friend of mine who has been to Vietnam once complained that all girls in Vietnam have exactly one/the same hairstyle. People sometimes make fun of my fluffy hair and my round face. My mom was so disappointed to find out I was so tanned that my skin looked as dark as that of a buffalo's. <- haha what! XD
2. Because in Vietnam, I'm domestically incapable
In Vietnam, girls are supposed to do all the housework. Whenever we have a family celebration, my female cousins and I have to wash all the dishes and cook all the food while all the boys just hang around and playing cards or terrorising our neighbours. If I ask my mom why my brother doesn't have to do any work, she will scold me: "You are a girl, don't ask such a silly question. People will laugh at you if you do".
3. Because in Vietnam, I'm corrupt
In Vietnam, girls are supposed to keep a low profile. We have to be feminine with a shy smile and a sweet voice. I don't have any of these. A Vietnamese guy, who was a few years older than me called me " ill-bred" because I dared to argue with him. Whenever I call home, my mom always asks " Are you still a good girl?"
In Vietnam, if a girl drinks alcohol, she's a brat. If she goes clubbing, she's a slut.
So yeah I'm doomed!

great English!!!!! :D

You seem to be surrounded by jerks though. You should probably move to the states because you are definitely not considered ugly here. If you are "ugly" like you described, then many Asian-American females are doomed.

To be frank, beauty is an advantage for all around the world, both for women and even men. BUT that is not the only advantage. Think about your abilities. I saw you profile. you're still so young and have lots of opportunities ahead of yourself. For example you can continue your education, either in your country or abroad, and show what you can do and what you have in your mind. Unlike the past now there are many websites offering free courses from the best university in the world. Such facilities can help you to meet your dreams and impress not only your parents but also your entire relatives and even maybe your entire society. In my opinion, if you want to do so, you need three things including (1) belief to yourself (2) step by step plan to go ahead toward your final goal and (3) effort. Just be strong and think about your capabilities. Good luck

Come here to the USA, you would have boys following you around like puppy dogs, haha.

you don't give up, you will find a good person soon

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