Marriage in Islam -- Part Two Previously we talked about two problems with the conventional types of marriage common in the West and other parts of the world. Here is another two. The third problem is not emotional, but behavioral. A man passes puberty and starts his youth with an eye on every woman’s beauty, and examining every part of their bodies, will have a very hard time looking down, and avoiding women’s beauty after their marriage. Same goes for women who are used to seeking men’s appreciation for their looks, will not be able to keep themselves from showing their beauty to stranger’s after marriage. The system of see-and-be-seen creates a shaky and unstable marital bond, and puts family security at risk. Husbands will end up mad at wives seeking strangers’ admiration of their beauty, and wives will be angry at husbands trying to feast upon unknown women’s looks. Another difficulty that this procedure causes, appears after their marriage. According to a famous saying, “Nobody is perfect.” Everyone has pros and cons. When a person finally choses a long-term partner and marry them, it is because they have the most advantages. But when the high-tide of love at the beginning of the marriage passes, then partners’ disadvantages start to appear. Disadvantages that were absent from other pre-marriage partners. Even some advantages had stronger presence in those partners. Now, the era of comparison starts, each party is compared to other people in different aspects of personality and appearance. Family fight is a go. Satisfaction from one another is over. Divorce, now, looms large. In the future part I will write about the Islamic alternative. To be continued.