Marriage in Islam -- Part One I was born in a Sheikh family in Qom, Iran. One of the most religious families of one of the most religious cities of one of the most religious countries in the world. Everything around me was so religious that I barely knew how normal people live. It took me years to understand how normal Iranian families marry their children, and how does their marriage work. When I learned English and started to study and examine Global cultures it was a great deal to me to know how people around the world, and particularly American and European countries get married. Then I got married and in the meantime analyzed how other types of marriage worked. I came to the conclusion that, as always, a God-given path for doing anything is way better than a man-made one. What is wrong with the conventional method? This is how marriage in Western countries work, correct me if I am wrong: When children come of age, and even before, they meet people from the other gender. The two partners observe each other's beauty, and get familiar with each other's likes and dislikes, they talk about and examine their tastes in everything, even in sexual preferences. Then they meet their parents and families. If, at any point, they did not match each other's liking they split ways. This repeats until they find their “true love” and get married. This method for starting a family looks good, and apparently leaves no margin for error. While actually it is not totally flawless. First off, the most obvious issue with this method is the high risk of traumatization. When young people meet a person so good-looking that fits to be their long-term partner, they will start to depend on them and make hopes and wishes around them. And if a party decides to break up, the other party will be left with deep wounds in their heart, as many have experienced it. For the same reason, the second problem arises. Partners would overlook each other’s disadvantages that would trouble them in the long run, just to avoid this trauma. This could happen consciously or subconsciously. Problems that they overlook, normally turns into future fights, and occasionally ends a marriage in a divorce. So, a method consisting of pre-marriage friendship, mostly ends in emotional problems, no matter it comes before marriage or afterwards. To be continued.