true love waits The book SEX, LOVE and YOU, tries to tell us that true love waits and save your sex for marriage. In fact, no everybody have sex. People have sex may not just for love. Other reasons for that just like: sexual attraction, media pressure, mistaken belief, loneliness, and no good reason to say no. It is true that people have strong desire for intimacy. But the kind that produces real closeness is the intellectual, emotional and spiritual intimacy but not having sex. Sex outside of marriage is not the way to get intimacy. True love waits. For many unfortunately things may happen of having premarital sex. Pregnancy is one of the bad things to have sex intercourse out of marriage. Once you have pregnancy before getting married, you may have to make some choices: to get married, to give the baby up for adoption, to keep the baby and raise it as a single parent, or to have abortion. If you take abortion, you may need to take the follow risks: bleeding, infection, uterine perforation, cervical injury, or even death. Not matter what you choose, it is horrible for you life. Premarital sex is a danger to your physical health. The rate of having the sexual transmitted diseases may be higher than the people do it in their marriage. So the best way to avoid all risk of all the STDs is to abstain from all sex outside of marriage. You also may suffer from the emotional and spiritual dangers: worry about pregnancy and AID; feel disappointed, empty, regret, and guilt; loss self-respect and self-esteem; lack of trust and fear of commitment; betrayal turned to rage or suicide; ruin the relationship. According to the statistics, there is no “safe sex”. Condom can not really help you deal with the problem of pregnancy, STDs, and emotional suffering. So, never take the risk, save your sex to the marriage, and keep your chastity for the marriage. The author also talks about sex from the aspect of religious. And how can you be chaste? The answers are mention as follow: improve the sex education, learns the way to say no and some strategies of dating, and choose friends those who share your value, having and keeping your high standard, waiting for the right person, think with God’s help. If you find out what is the secret of a happy marriage, you will know why it is right to save sex for marriage. For sex is not the only thing in the love, but also equal power, commitment, sharing, trust, forgiveness and reconciliation, and belief.