How to talk with a person who I don't know well: Introduction How to talk with a person who I don't know well: Introduction I look for their positiveness at first. When I find how positive they are, I adapt myself to their conversational styles. Positives tend to like positive conversation , and vice versa. Second, their proactivity. When I talk with those who are not proactive, I will ask much more than with proactives. Since I am a job hopper, relatively in Japan, I could gain some friends with similar job. On the other hand, I have some occasion that many musicians, who are amateur like me, get together for performance. I mainly talk about our works with my friends who came to know at work, and talk about music with my friends who came to know through music. I like a thoughtful conversation. I like to think about the essence of matter, not the superficies of it.