Parents know the best.
I thinks that Italki is a such great place for written practice. That`s why I am trying to write more or less regularly here;)
Yesterday I had to work. It`s so awful to work on Sunday, isn`t it?
But there was one thing which brought the sense to my working day. I was still excited about the last lecture at my university and I needed to share with someone my thoughts;) Even our teacher said that we should share our knowledge with other people, otherwise for what we learn something?
So, I know that one woman from my work has some problems with her elder son. Once she said to me about that, because she knows I study psychology. It was not a serious request to my help, just an innocent conversation. But remembering that talk, I have decided to speak with her a little. It`s a long story what exactly troubles she has, but she was opened for dialogue and she really listened to me carefully. I just wanted to share with her some advice which could help her in my opinion. I recommended her a book which she needs to read, if she wants to harmonize relations with her son and understand herself much better. She would like that her son would be much stronger, much smarter, than he is, and she gets angry when he doesn`t behave by her expectations. But it`s not his fault. It seems to me, the problems of parents are often into themselves, but not in their children (at least not only in their behaviour). Parents exactly know (how they suppose) what is the best for the children. But frequently they even have no idea what their children really like doing or how they feel, what problems and fears they have. It`s a very complicated problem and I don`t claim that I know much about such things like relationships of parents and children. But I truly believe that practically all problems in a family can be solved when people really wish this. It`s a pity that not adults realize that fact.
And the most difficult and sad thing is that theory is always different to practice.
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Parents Know the Best
I thinks that Italki is a such great place for writing practice. That`s why I am trying to write somewhat regularly here;)
Yesterday I had to work. It`s so awful to work on Sunday, isn`t it?
But there was one thing which gave the meaning to my workday. I was still excited about the last lecture at my university and I needed to share my thoughts with someone ;) Even our teacher said that we should share our knowledge with other people, otherwise for what good is learning something?
So, I know that one woman from my work has some problems with her elder son. She once told me that, because she knows I study psychology. It was not a serious request for my help, just an innocent conversation. But remembering that talk, I have decided to speak with her a little. She had a long list of problems, but she was open to a dialogue and she really listened to me carefully. I just wanted to share with her some advice which could help her in my opinion. I recommended her a book which she needs to read, if she wants bring harmony to her relationship with her son and understand herself much better. She would like that her son to be much stronger, much smarter than he is, and she gets angry when he doesn`t behave according to her expectations. But it`s not his fault. It seems to me, the problems of parents are often a reflection of themselves, and not of their children (at least not just their behaviour). Parents know exactly (as they're supposed to) what is the best for the children. But frequently they don't even have any idea what their children really like to do or how they feel, what problems and fears they have. It`s a very complicated problem and I don`t claim that I know much about such things as parent-child relationships. But I truly believe that practically all problems in a family can be solved when people really want it. It`s a pity that adults don't realize that fact.
And the most difficult and sad thing is that theory is always different from practice.
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Parents know the best.
I thinks that Italki is a such great place for writing written practice. That`s why I am trying to write more or less regularly here;)
Yesterday I had to work. It`s so awful to work on Sunday, isn`t it?
But there was one thing which brought the sense to my working day. I was still excited about the last lecture at my university and I needed to share [my thoughts] with someone my thoughts;) Even our teacher said that we should share our knowledge with other people, otherwise for what [do]we learn[anything] something?
So, I know that one a woman from my work has some problems with her elder son. Once she said to [told] me about [it] that, because she knows I study psychology. It was not a serious request to my help, just an innocent conversation. But remembering that [conversations ]talk, I have decided to speak with her a little.
It`s a long story what exactly troubles she has, but she was opened for dialogue and she really listened to me carefully. I just wanted to share [some advice] with her some advice which could help her in my opinion. I recommended her a book [to her] which she needs [should] to read, if she wants to harmonize relations with her son and understand herself much better.
She would like that [for] her son would [to] be much stronger, much smarter, than he is, and she gets angry when he doesn`t behave by [to] her expectations. But it`s not his fault. It seems to me, the problems [with] of parents are [is] often into [with] themselves, but not in [rather than with]their children (at least not only in their behaviour). Parents exactly know [know exactly](how they suppose) what is the best for the children. But frequently they even have no idea what their children really like doing or how they feel,[and] what problems and fears they have. It`s a very complicated problem and I don`t claim that I know much about such things like [the] relationships of parents and children. But I truly believe that practically all problems in a family can be solved when people really wish this*1. It`s a pity that not adults [don't] realize that [this]fact.
And the most difficult and sad thing is that theory is always different in practice.
*1 i think you mean "realize" but I am not completly sure .
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Annie G ♥, you`re welcome;)
By the way your thoughts are exactly what I think about this problem.
We all just need to remember that if children don`t get love and support at home, in the family - they can try to find them in another place, by another people. And those people are not always good, unfortunately.
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Thank you Kat for explaining a little more. Children ALWAYS need Love more than anything else, Love in the form of attention, understanding and care, I agree with you, providing material means has never be a replacement for the emotional brough up of a child. I believe a parent - son relationship changes as the kid grows up. If in childhood the parents didn't give the time and attention it was needed, it will be difficult to get closer to the kid when in teenage. Maybe that's what the lady of your entry is going through. Of course, it is always better to keep trying than to give up. It also depends whether both parents are workers or just the father, I believe the later is the ideal but it is not always possible in these modern days. I think loving parents do try to give as much time as their job and other activities for aliving allow them to give. But like you said, not all.
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Andre, I agree with you. I think it`s one of the main problems between parents and children in life today.
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