Sometimes, we should not let go any oppotunity. 😉 If that first move we as a woman makes could bring us into a happiness, why not give it a shot?

We don't know about the future. It's good to not let the opportunity go and regret it later.

Oh, what an interesting discussion!

I think it’s one thing when a guy/man and a girl/woman know each other personally and see each other on a regular basis at work, in a mutual company of friends, at university, etc.; and it’s a different story when it’s online dating. I was the one who first approached my now partner on such a website. And the way I did was really casual, non-flirting and no strings attached: I read his profile in which he mentioned something about traveling so I asked him about that, I don’t remember exactly what but my question was something like “where would you like to travel next?”. So that’s how we started to talk.

And I think many girls/women when reading or hearing the dreadful “the first move” imagine themselves asking that man/guy out on a date. But the first move also means showing more interest to that person (I think somebody’s already mentioned hints), asking them for help, a piece of advice, smiling at them which are the things much less scary than just bluntly approaching him and asking him out on a date. You also get to know that person better in the meantime and see if you are compatible.

The other day I was talking to my single 35 year-old friend and as long as I’ve known her she’s always wanted to get married and have children. She never makes the first move. She prefers to wait for others to approach her first but then she complains they are all too young or not good. When I asked her why don’t you first write to them, she told me in her culture (Armenian but she never lived there) women who make the first move are considered too easy, as in sluts. So I started to wonder how much our own culture can condition us, tell us how to live even if there are no legal restrictions whatsoever. I sense it’s everybody’s personal choice but if your culture prevents you from pursuing your own happiness and you’re legally free, maybe it’s okay not to subscribe to such norms, traditions that get in the way of your aspirations and dreams?

If women want to make the first move, more power to them. At the risk of being politically incorrect, let me just say that I don’t think it's going to catch on. You see, when most guys make the first move, they get “shot down” more often than not. Well, maybe “shot down” is an exaggeration, but even an attractive guy is usually going to have to approach a lot of women before finding the right one. Most men would secretly love for women to approach them, but it’s unlikely that an attractive woman will do so. Women, on the other hand, have the luxury of waiting for men to approach them. Why on earth would a woman risk a failed approach when a real man who found her attractive would approach her anyway? So, ladies, go ahead and make the first move if you'd like to, but don’t say you weren’t warned.

Sometimes men are so shy when it comes to choose a life partner, so in this case if women makes first move, I think by doing this the women can save shy guys from loneliness. it will be OK.

If i like him I'll make the first move LOL